Fifty and Holding: Lessons Learned

Hello friends, I hope that you at least had a restful weekend. I actually went to a birthday party with a friend and her daughters. It was a karaoke birthday party, and it was fun. It was just nice to get out for a change. While there, my friend and I were able to sit and chat a bit. We talked about our lives and just did a little catching up. As we talked, it dawned on me that I really have learned some things over the years. Here is a list of some of those things that came to me when I pondered over my lessons learned.

1. The first is that everyone can't be your friend, and that's ok, everyone isn't good friend material. 
2. All is not fair, in love and war or at the shoe sale when you can't find the mate to the shoe that you want.
3. Good guys don't always finish first, there's always some bad guy waiting around the corner to trip you up.
4. The more people that you know, the more potential that there is for drama.
5. Working hard will not always get you ahead, but it will get you a paycheck.
6. After 50, each lb that you gain is really actually 5 pounds.
7. That skin under your neck is there to stay. ( Gobble, Gobble baby!)
8. It's not always hot outside when you're hot inside.
9. Yes, that hair turns grey too!
10. The heartthrobs of yesterday, are the grandfathers of today.(just ask Billy Dee)

I've learned many things over the years and I've given you just a few of them. However, there is one thing that it has taken me all of my fifty two years to wrap my mind around. Pay attention, because I know that some of you may not have reached this level of consciousness. Perhaps you have, but then again maybe not. Ok here it is; You can't change a person, who doesn't want to change. Simple huh? However, so many times we find ourselves hoping, trying, working, to change someone whom we feel needs changing. The only person that I can truly change is me. You can only change you, and so on, and so on.  It's a simple thought, and even now I sometimes forget, but then I smile knowingly and say to myself, "I can only change me." Hey but knowing this doesn't stop my heartaches or help me to sleep better at night. It just helps me to understand and know. They say that knowing is half the battle... don't they?  I'm just sharing with you those things that cross my mind from time to time.  Use the comment area to share with me your lessons learned.

 

Good night friends, dream of all that makes you happy. Talk to you soon.